It's like two bulls fighting, and whichever is strongest prevails. The manifestation of this battle is in each person's attitude toward success. Do you want it?
There are many angles to address this, but I want to focus on an item that has come up with somebody close. It bothers me. I am troubled, because I witness how his shit attitude affects his kids, and this guy does not see how this toxic poison will ruin his own children's potential.
I know a guy with four kids and each has loads of potential that is never realized.
They never stick with anything, because he beats them up emotionally and mentally. Nothing is ever right, good enough or up to standard. And this perfectionism is balanced with a philosophy toward competition that says winning does not matter.
Not surprising...not one of his 4 kids has ever won at anything. They enter any endeavor in a sea blue funk, looking for reasons to lose, then quit. His oldest eventually gave up on sports and turned to drug abuse.
The others will do likewise.
It's tough to watch, because I have five kids, and they all know what is means to succeed - to win 1st place in an event and realize potential. My oldest is age 20, and he is carrying this attitude into life as an adult. I bring this up for 3 reasons.
- I need to vent...
- We should be aware of how we parent
- Are our own lives affected by an abnormal childhood?
Items 2 and 3 are my focus, because I do not want perpetuate this cycle. And when I see the look of rage and disappointment in his eyes...and the look of anguish and hurt in his own kids, I see Dad and me.
I just don't think some fathers realize how fragile kids are inside, and I pity these boys with loads of potential that shall never be fulfilled. I want to raise winners, and I want to be a winner which means overcoming the past and focusing on a bright future for myself as well as those in my care.
It all starts with attitude. That's where both failure and success are cultivated.
ALL IS POSSIBLE!
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